The recent research about human development clearly shows that the positive seeds of honesty, love, compassion, respect and empathy are present from childhood. So, in order for our young boys and guys to become responsible, ethical and caring adults, we must cultivate and nature these seeds at childhood.
Below are ways to raise a healthy, respectful, loving and ethical children, along with proven strategies for putting them into action.
1. Develop a caring and loving relationship with your children
Our children learn to love and care for others when they are treated that way. If they feel loved and cared for, they will also become attached to us and more receptive to our teaching and values. In fact, loving our kids takes many forms such as providing a stable family environment, tending to their emotional and physical needs, showing them love and affection ad much more. Some of the practical things you can try include:
• Spending regular, emotionally intimate time together with your children.
• Learn to listen to your children and always encourage them to express themselves.
• Treat your child with respect and don’t embarrass him by talking about his or her negative behaviors in public.
• Give your kids love, affection, and attention to help them develop into responsible human beings
• Always encourage your boys and girls to develop their own interests and character, and also to explore their own interests.
• Whenever you have time with your child, always engage in a meaningful conversation.
2. Discipline your child and make them learn from their mistakes
Disciplining your child is also another important way of raising a responsible child. In fact, for many parents, instilling effective discipline is one of the most frustrating and toughest tasks of parenting. This should not be the case because there are several strategies that can help make your children stop bad behavior and probably learn from their mistakes.
• Make sure your child to understand that a punishment is a way of correcting their bad behaviors and a way of parental love.
• Children need limits, so you need to instill a reasonable punishment to a child who goes beyond the set limits.
• Reward your kids for their good behavior. This is more important than punishing them for bad behavior.
• You have to be consistent if you want to discipline your child effectively.
• Explain your rules and make your children understand why they can’t do certain things.
• Teach your kids to take responsibility for their bad behaviors or actions.
3. Provide healthy meals and develop a healthy routine
Providing your healthy meals ensures that your children get enough nutrients they need to grow healthy, build strong bones, have energy and various fight diseases and medical conditions. You need to pay attention to the type of food they eat and how much they are consuming.
Providing your kids with healthy meals is not enough. To help them stay on track and uncover problems you may not be aware of, you also need to develop a healthy routine. Below are some of the proven ways to create a daily routine that works for you and your children:
• Put parenting first by making your child’s character development your top priority.
• Help your child to develop a reading culture. Not only will your kids develop love for words, but they will also have a better chance of attaining both behavioral and academic success
• Try to eat dinner as a family at least a couple of days per week.
• You should set a strict bedtime routine that your children can follow and stick to it.
• You should incorporate at least one or two activities into your child’s weekly routine, and encourage them to develop new skills.
• Give your child enough play time every day.
4. Build character in your kids
Our children learn good behaviors and ethical values by watching our actions and those of other people. They will listen to our teaching when we talk to them. However, don’t reduce character education to words alone. Studies show that human beings learn through practice. So as a parent, we should help our children by promoting moral action through good work habits, self-discipline, community service and kind and considerate behavior to others, and kind and considerate behavior to others and being kind and considerate to others. Below are some of the ways you can build character in your kids:
• Be a strong moral role model and mentor.
• Make caring for themselves and others a priority and set high ethical expectations.
• Provide opportunities for your kids to practice gratitude and the art of caring for other people.
• Promote kid’s ability to be ethical and critical thinkers and positive change-makers.
• Help children develop self-control and manage feelings effectively.
• Develop an eye and ear for what your kids are listening, watching and absorbing.
• Teach your children good manners, such as saying “please,” and “thank you”
• Only use the words you want your children to use.
• Teach your children to have empathy for others.
5. Help children to develop self-control and manage their feelings effectively
The ability to care for others is overwhelmed by negative feelings such as shame, envy and anger. Our children need our help learning to cope with all kinds of feelings in productive ways. That said, we need to help our children to develop self-control and manage their negative feelings effectively. Also, we can teach our boys and girls that all negative feelings are okay and they need to find ways to deal with those negative feelings. Below are some of the practical ways you can help your children to develop self-control and manage their feelings effectively:
•Ask your children to share their negative feelings such as sadness, frustrations and anger. After sharing their feelings, encourage them to reveal why they’re feeling that way.
• To help your children to manage their feelings, ask them to stop whatever they are doing and take a deep breath and relax. When you see them returning to their negative feeling, remind them to take a deep breath again.
As you have seen, raising a caring, loving, respectful, ethical and responsible child requires hard work. But it’s something rewarding all of us can do.